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Woman's Courtship (Part 1)

Since known time in history, many writers, artists, composers, musicians, craftsmen and sculpturers have been portraying and adorning vibrant image of woman and her elegance, liveliness, charisma and splendor by employing intellect, imaginations and emotions at their best. Legends and mythologies are meaningless without her. Also, she is the key driving force of human evolution.

Her unique characteristics, skills and qualities separate her from men. Beauty, cuteness, resilience, easy adaptability and naturality can be easily equated to a woman. The entire world is worthless without her warmth, tenderness, affection, caring nature and social skills. She has bigger responsibilities towards human race so has different strategies while choosing a mate (partner).
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Conventionally, it’s the man who makes first move towards woman as he thinks. It's totally wrong at most of times! Surprisingly, it’s the woman who takes initiatives for drawing his attention and bringing him into game of courtship. By default, men are non-verbally dumb and woman has large range of nonverbal signals and behavioral patterns to encourage him to take first step.

In comparison to a man, a woman makes her choices more carefully, consciously and with lots of patience. If she's really interested in a man (beyond physical, economical, strategic and materialistic gain), she tries to collect clues from the man of her interest to judge his over character, qualities, level of commitment, strengths, weaknesses.

On the other hand, if a woman takes a great amount of interest in a man with just physical, economical, strategic and materialistic gain then she would send nonverbal clues to arouse and compel him to walk in her trap. Her nonverbal behavior would be bolder, overt, superficial, unnatural and attention-grabber.

While observing mentioned nonverbal patterns, please ensure that many of them prevail frequently, together or one-after-another during interactions over a considerable period of time. Otherwise, mere attraction or 'fishing' would be mistaken as courtship.

Following are more than fifty patterns that have been systematically observed and documented across many cultures, classes, ethnicity and societies. Here are few of them that are very common:

Who’s Attractive?: This is very primitive signal woman gives out on finding an attractive man. She doesn't look directly at him but she rolls her eyes as if running her vision across room or hall. Her enlarged angle of vision allows her to do so. She can target and observe somebody without being noticed.

On the other hand, man’s contracted angle of vision compels him to look directly.

Eve’s Advance: Like man points his leg(s) at woman he finds more attractive or appealing, she points by her leg(s) towards the man she wants to move to. Even if man is not looking at her feet directly, his peripheral vision might pick this move.

If she is in a seating position she puts one leg on another that points at him.

Sideway Solicitation: When she’s standing or seating near to him, she doesn't look directly at him but along side. When he finds her watching him, she immediately diverts gaze in other direction as if she didn’t watch him at all.

She will repeats side way glancing until he pays attention at her. Side way glace is one of the great solicitations that he can’t resist.

Giggles and Gossip: If she’s standing or seating nearby him then she tries to make herself heard by him. If she’s having her friends or familiar persons around, she strikes conversion with them for no obvious reasons. She makes strange and vivacious/ dynamic facials expressions and pronounces words crisply and with high pitch.

She makes a lot of hand gestures, illustrations and vocal modulations. She giggles a lot and looks at him and away repeatedly. 

Flagging Fairy: If he’s standing, sitting or walking in front of her, she waves palms at him to draw his attention. Also, she suddenly starts gesturing with her palms that are kept facing at him.

When he looks at her purposefully or accidentally, she would suddenly stop waving and touches her face or hairs.

Graceful Groomer: She tries to look and act attractive i. e. good looking while he is around. When he looks at her purposefully or accidentally, she checks her hair, outfits and accessories. If they are messed up, untidy or wrinkled, she touches and grooms them very gently and dramatically.

Grooming takes place irrespective of what she wears i.e. ethnic, modern, formal or casual costumes.

Smiling Shy: A smile has immense power to help in winning somebody’s favor and building strong rapport. When girl gets really attracted to a man, she shows it off by coy (shy) smile. Only upper teeth are exposed with slight elongated gaze at him.

Coy smile is hard to mimic and it is the mark of her genuine interest in him.

Silky, Soft and Shiny: Hairs are health indicator. Long, wavy and shining hairs have amazing power to win men’s attention towards her. She smoothly touches and runs her fingers though hairs to straighten them up. She gently moves them away from face and eyes while confronting with him.

She will repetitively entwine and release her fingers or play with their ends to show how silky and soft hairs are.

Concealing Coyness: Ideally, it’s the woman who smiles a lot during courtship. Not just the physical beauty and appearance but liveliness, exuberance and lightheartedness have great advantage for her. But under social surroundings, she tries to conceal her smile in front of him.

She grabs or holds (whatever she finds suitable) in front of her lips. She looks down to break an eye contact.

Interest Incline: If a man approaches and starts talking with her while she's sitting or standing, she leans forward. She shows an active interest in listening and sharing things. She lowers gaze and smile benevolently.

She would keep her belongings near to him as if she feels safe to keep them close to him.

Oceanic Eyes: An elongated eye contact can drive man  crazy and make him spin on his toes. When his looks at her, she tries to draw his attention at her eyes. She touches near or below her eyebrows, she touches her chicks and fixes gaze on him with faint smile on face.

She would regulate his attention by hovering her eyes across his face.

Read about remaining patterns in next post - Woman's Courtship (Part 2)


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  2. ha ha .....feeling good!
    I have not noticed the way the article explained the things.

  3. I watched so many movies but couldn't recognize these patterns at all. Simply great article!


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