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Man’s Courtship

If someone describes man’s courtship moves in limited words then those words are “Apparent, aggressive and tactless”. Largely, man’s courting cannot be described well than these words. Strong reason behind the same is the hormone that makes man (to appear) more aggressive, competing, and straightforward - Testosterone. It is the hormone that secretes at large amount in (adult) male’s body, 20 times more than that of female. (According to some studies, level of testosterone in women shoots manifold as compared to men many times.)

Photo credit: Christopher Philip; BodyLanguageProject.com
Man makes courtship move in an obvious way - more crystal clear and easily acknowledgeable. Most of the moves are strongly related to the physical and social attributes.

Let’s see few of the commonly observable courtship patterns of men.

Archer’s gaze: Compared to woman’s short darting glances, man looks directly at woman he likes or feels more attractive. In social situations, most women find this kind of look very offensive and might retaliate it with obscure temper. He would smile coyly as normal interactions take place and attraction soars.

He would exploit every opportunity of looking directly at her or he would discover different opportunities by spending time, employing rapport, money, and energy or even taking unimaginable risks.

Good guy: He starts moving fingers through his hairs to straight them even if they are not messed or combs them often. He starts clearing imaginary dust fallen on his cloths, adjusting his necktie to make it look neat, pull his shirt towards abdomen to fade away wrinkles, and stretch handcuffs. He would stand straight and walk more carefully. He would try to exhibit that he follows good manners.

Crossing arms: He crosses his hands over his chest while standing, seating or walking with women he likes. He unconsciously tries to control pulsating pull towards her. He nervously looks at her and then looks downwards and smiles faintly. He may not maintain direct eye contact with her while standing much closer.

Pocketing palms: He puts his palms in pockets of trouser or pant while interacting with her most of time. His gestures become more out of control and saggy as if he is trying to vent off his anxiety of not being much impressive at that time. He may stumble on words and inhale - exhale abruptly. He might sweat a lot.

Little step forward: He starts pointing by one of his legs in the direction she is standing or sitting at the moment. He unconsciously starts advancing towards her. It’s sure sign of showing off his desire to go further in relationship. Its progressive move towards an affiliation. On the other hand, other men would come to know about the same.

How’s bigger than me?: He rests his hand on his hips for pretending larger body size than what it normally appears. This is typical posture he adopts to assure woman than no one other than him is able to cover or protect her in potential relation. On the other hand, it’s a warning signal to other men too. The man seeking a relation with woman and adopting this posture can have an aggressive and hostile mentality towards rivals. 

Macho man: He flaunts his muscular built in front of woman whenever he gets an opportunity. He would wear t-shirts or tank tops so that his strong muscular arms and puffed chest can be easily watched by her. He would (attempt to) lift or handle heavier objects or entwine fingers of both hands and thrust hands forward - away from torso. He would wrestle or tussle with other men or sporty hit them. He would look at his torso at one moment and look at her at next in cycles.

Dominator: He starts to dominate friends, sub-ordinates or colleges in front her. He would make joke or fun of them as he gets opportunity or finds their flaws. He would pat on or stand behind their back, rest his hands on their shoulders or put his entire body weight. He starts questioning about them even when not necessary. He would blow horn by his own about speed, ability, strength, and intelligence.

Caretaker: On the other hand, he would remain very polite, gentle, and care-taking towards her. He would appreciate her look and clothing. He would ask her if somebody is causing trouble for her. He would offer her costly (surprise) gifts or ask her for having ride or food together. Also, he would actively share his vision and goals with her as if both of them get benefited from. He would ask her about her feelings and opinions too.

  Status swagger: He proudly flaunts his latest achievements or awards by announcing or displaying them publicly (and without thanking anybody genuinely). He would assert his success, socio-economical status or prosperity (without giving credits to anybody despite of facts). He would ask somebody to describe him in better words. He would confidently parade with advanced gadgets or devices held in his hands.  

She’s mine: When he finds or assumes that other man is showing an active interest in same women he likes, he would become aggressive and start openly exhibiting his possessiveness towards her. He stands putting his one or both hands on his hips and one of his legs pointing towards her. He darts at other men alongside or fixates his gaze on his actual or imaginary rival.

Warning for rival: He glares at other men interacting with or approaching her. He hurriedly rushes to her and tries to derogate other men by physical or tactical abilities. He tries to separate her from other men or draw her attention at himself deliberately. He would try to interrogate or manipulate other man in irritating or arrogant way.

Dancing & glancing: He would dance in front of her or at place that is easily observable by her. Rather than performing solitary, he would compete with other men by stamina and different kind of moves. Same like muscle display, he would look at himself and look at her in cycles. He would amplify his tempo or exaggerate movements if she’s watching him with interest.

Important: While observing mentioned nonverbal patterns, be sure that many of them prevail together over a considerable period of time. Otherwise, mere infatuation could be mistaken as courtship.

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