We may not remember the first step taken as child. Before started to walk; we certainly would have stumbled, fallen and tried to stand up again and again. Continuous encouragement, appreciation, sympathy and guidance motivated us to take early steps. Somebody was there who we looked at, followed and seek support from until becoming able to walk on own. We started to walk because somebody thought that we ought to do it!
We come across many people after birth but most decisive influence we have on our mind is of parents, caretakers or elders who bring us up. They shape our basic instincts, habits, gut, behavior and attitude. They train to restrain fear, to comfort distress, to identify crucial signals and triggers, to make way towards what is favorable and safe, to communicate - socialize and to form bonds that can serve best interest.
Bond between mother and child is the most fundamental and life transforming. Mother not only just feeds and protects child but also formulates what child is going to do or be in future. Surprisingly, it is the child who continuously follows her to relate, communicate and socialize with others. Role of father in same is also indisputable. Children learn to express and respond at things and people the way parents do by most.
Have you ever observed a child being handover to a stranger by parents? If not then do closely watch at desperate look of child and alert stance. It looks at faces of parents to know their expressions and feelings about stranger. Unless they give assurance of no harm from stranger to child, it never moves forward or stay calm. Simply, a child seeks opinion from parents and caretakers until it becomes independent in justifying others.
Even after growing up, we always seek clues from familiar person before moving forward to strangers, new places and things. Let’s take a very good example of it. In office or social gathering, we approach to or stay close with the person we know best or feel favorable. Same person gives information and opinion about the others and introduce you with them. Otherwise, imagine a level of anxiety one feels while walking alone with crowd of strangers. For developing hunch, proper guidance is required.
Importance of emotionally adept, encouraging and pro-social parenting would always remain because it assures social survivability, more fulfilling relations and enormous opportunities outside home. More socially mature and relation oriented parents, more their children would likely become same in future.
|Parents shape child's potential social life.|